Mother of the Bride
December 1st, 2008 by Karen WhiteLove her or hate her, mum is quite often a pivotal figure at your wedding. Whilst some mothers are a dream to work with others are more stubborn. What is the best way to make sure mum looks the part at your wedding whilst being dignified?
• Some mothers will naturally let the daughter decide what they should wear – others are more stubborn and like what they like. You should know what the mother is like! It isn’t wrong for you to suggest an outfit or a colour scheme – she should respect some of your wishes at least.
• The mother of the bride like the mother of the groom should pay for their own outfit.
• According to etiquette, the mother of the bride should choose an outfit before the mother of the groom. The mother of the groom should choose a dress to complement the mother of the brides dress. So if the mother of the bride chooses green, the mother of the groom shouldn’t choose red as there will be an obvious clash in the photographs.
• If there are any step parents then it is important that they respect the mother of the bride’s choice of outfit first.
• Ideally the mother of the brides dress shouldn’t wear black. Although guests do sometimes wear this colour, it is still related to funerals and death.
• And even more important, they shouldn’t wear anything resembling cream or white. No one should look like a bride except for the bride and there’s no exception for the mother of the bride!
• The mother of the bride’s outfit should suit the occasion. At a formal event they should wear a long full length gown and hat. At a casual event a shorter dress is acceptable.
• Something age appropriate is preferable at a wedding. Some mothers look fantastic for their age and have great figures and like to wear skimpier outfits. You should politely ask you mother to wear a shawl or cardigan to keep arms covered, and wear a dress or skirt that is below the knee.
The most important thing is that everyone is happy when choosing an outfit for the mother of the bride. Be honest and clear about what you do and don’t want. Be just as clear with the mother of the groom so there are no fights afterwards!
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